So I'm not sure if my husband has been living in an endorphin induced high, but today reality hit. I guess I called him out on all his 'encouraging' words. I told him that they really weren't that encouraging to me, because I know I have more 'baby' experience then he does, so when he says, "we can do it", I hear "you can do it and I can learn"....
I wish my Mom lived closer.
I wish I wasn't scared.
Not scared anymore that she won't place, but that I won't be able to do this. I
'd rather obsess about our birth mother, but instead, I'm worried about us.
About me.
I'm adopted, he's in the Air Force, and all we really want is family. After 8 miscarriages, and one failed adoption, this blog is a journal through infertility, adoption, and now parenthood, now that Isaac has filled our baby carriage, and it's about to be filled again with a surprise, successful (so far) pregnancy! It's sometimes blunt, sometimes improper, but always real. This is our story.
You will be amazing! You are a natural.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, since you have more baby experience, you will be okay and your husband will learn, but let him! Don't take it on all yourself!
This is such an exciting time! The anticipation is the worst. Once you have your baby in your arms, it will all be okay :) :)
There will be a period of adjustment (as someone who has recently gone through something similar with a foster baby). Your husband will need to learn. You will be learning again. It will be hard and I can promise you that you will cry more than once. But....IT GETS BETTER. No matter what's happening at that moment (tears, spit-up, fevers, pee or poo everywhere) it will get better. And you will do a fine job...more than that, you will rock it out!
ReplyDeleteMy advice:
1) Communicate your expectations
2) Let your husband do things he's good at to get confidence
3) Let your husband help you!
It will all be fine.
Jennifer, you and T have been longing for this and you will be great parents!! Don't second guess your ability:)
ReplyDeleteJust know this is normal. Everyone worries about these things and you guys will be great!!!!!!!
ReplyDelete((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteI had the same doubts, except I had NO experience and DH had had some, even if it was when he was 11 and his brother was born.
If I can do it, you can do it! And yes, let T do what he can, even if he does it differently!
You can do it! You will both be fine.
ReplyDeleteLess than 10 days, how eciting!
You can do this. When I had my son 7 years ago, I had similar concerns... but let me tell you, once it was for real we both found our little niche in caring for the baby. It all falls into place.
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