Thursday, November 18, 2010

Do you want?

We got it.  Our first "do you want your profile shown" email. 

Our agency will contact adoptive parents if a unique situation arises, to see if we want our profile shown.  Some of it could be drug history, birth father 'complications', additional expenses, or psychological issues.

This particular situation is psychological issues.  Some of it will be overcome just because of the child leaving that situation (head trauma, ptsd, abuse), but some of it might not.

I'll be the first to admit, I've not always been 'stable'.  I had a period in my life where I relied heavily on medication to get through some situations.  So is it wrong for me to question something like this?  When really, the same risk this birth mother passes genetically on to her child I could have easily passed on to my own?

A tough decision to pray over... and a decision that needs to be made soon.


  1. It sounds like you are being very ratiional about this (which is good). I suspect when you actually have to give a yes or no answer you will know what to do.

    Something I worry about is if my husband and I will feel the same on these type of issues. I believe we probably will for the most part, but if we don't, I don't want to be responsible for talking him into a decision he isn't comfortable with.

    Your heart must skip a beat every time you hear from your agency!

  2. Sounds like a gray area and one that's difficult to make a decision about. Good luck.

  3. Good luck I know God will provide you guys with the "perfect" Baby and it will all work out. My thoughts and prayers are with you :) J

  4. That IS a tough decision. Good luck, babe.

  5. Always a tough'll make the right choice for your family.

  6. Definitely a tough decision...good luck and thinking of you!

  7. ::Hugs::

    Thinking of you as you ponder this possibility.