So, to get ready for the vacation coming up, I've started tanning... yes, I'm that shallow.
Where I've been working, people have begun to notice, and since they didn't see me since before spring break (I'm a sub, but I go to this building the most, and know everyone, and have literally subbed for every teacher except Kindergarten and 5th grade teachers). Many have asked where we went on spring break for me to get so tan, and I tell them I'm 'fake baking' for our upcoming vacation.
Now, I went through the adoption home study process while I was subbing there long term (for the first quarter of school), so most people know about the adoption process. Even more, I was subbing there the day we got the phone call, and I left the room to answer my husbands call (I'm not a horrible teacher- there was a student teacher who was teaching at the moment). My principal saw me in the hall, crying, and came gave me a hug, waiting until I got off the phone to see if the tears were happy 'we're going to have a baby', or sad 'they didn't pick us' tears. When she was making announcements about something else that day, she included "And, if you see Mrs. A######, make sure you ask her why she has a smile on her face".
Well, when I came back to sub after winter break, they all knew it was because I didn't have a baby at home (I was going to have to stay at least 60 days home).
SOOO---
I swear- if ONE MORE PERSON TELLS ME THE VACATION WILL BE GOOD FOR ME, BECAUSE MAYBE I'LL GET PREGNANT, I might just SHOVE a dry erase marker up their nose!
I do know that they mean well, but don't you think that if my doctor said 'you just need to go on vacation, relax, and then it'll work', that Trav and I wouldn't have been flying out somewhere the next day?
I'm adopted, he's in the Air Force, and all we really want is family. After 8 miscarriages, and one failed adoption, this blog is a journal through infertility, adoption, and now parenthood, now that Isaac has filled our baby carriage, and it's about to be filled again with a surprise, successful (so far) pregnancy! It's sometimes blunt, sometimes improper, but always real. This is our story.
Ahh the old "just relax" cliche - people are so maddening. I'll punch them for you.
ReplyDeletePlease do not tell me that you're serious and that people have actually been saying this to you??? After all that you've been through???
ReplyDeleteOh my. I will give you a supply of dry erase markers. How HORRIBLE!
I totally understand that comment! Funny it 99% of times comes only from fertiles (unless us unfertiles are just desperate). I hope you just have a great time and RELAX!!! Also....I always tan prior to getting in a suit for vaca :)
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness. People have said this to me on numerous occasions. This and various versions of 'just relax'. I want to punch them.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm jealous of your ability to tan whether "fake" or not. I have two colors: pale and lobster red. ;D