I'm adopted, he's in the Air Force, and all we really want is family. After 8 miscarriages, and one failed adoption, this blog is a journal through infertility, adoption, and now parenthood, now that Isaac has filled our baby carriage, and it's about to be filled again with a surprise, successful (so far) pregnancy! It's sometimes blunt, sometimes improper, but always real. This is our story.
Monday, May 30, 2011
TV adoption
I left off right as Pamela was getting re-married, and somewhere in the missed episodes the Burton's decided to adopt. The first five minuets it shows them sitting on the couch, doing a video 'profile'. A line that Joan said hit me hard.
"I can't believe the future of our family depends on weather or not we can impress a teenage girl."
Though I do feel like she's a bit off the target by limiting her statement to teenage girls, I think we all know that is a very limited viewpoint. In fact, I think it might be safe to say that a majority of birthmoms are out of high school.
That said, she did say something that hit home.... hard.
Our future family is based on the match book. And I was the one responsible for making the match book. So does that make me the one that will determine our future family? Trust me, I felt that full responsibility as I was doing it.
I used a digital scrapbook program that was very easy to use. Trav could see that I was starting to crack, so he would sit next to me for hours upon hours as I went through pictures, picked backgrounds, added embellishments and text. He helped me pick choices, between pictures, font, stuff like that.
I was so grateful, just to have him sit by me, take a few of the choices that had to be made off my plate, even if they were small ones.
Please tell me I'm not the only one that struggles with the profile book and feeling like you have to sell yourselves to prospective birth parents... and if I have any readers who are birth parents, I'd LOVE to here your perspective!
Friday, May 27, 2011
$.75 happy evening
The motto of recruiting should be "Welcome to recruiting, say good bye to your federal holidays!". Trav is at a race event all weekend, so tonight I was alone. I spent my time with Bud Wheat, bbq wings, and this amazing ice cream cup, thay was $.75! It's cake batter, and had sprinkles and actual chunks of vanilla cake.
Awesome!
Between the yummy food, good drink, and awesome dessert, it was good. I watched Eat,Pray,Love, but wasn't totally impressed, so I stopped 1/2 way thru, and watched the last couple episodes of The Glades, on demand. I didn't ever see it the first season, but was able to catch up, so I'm ready for season 2.