I have so much temptation in my life, and its not even for anything 'jucy'. I want our baby to come home to us... like now...
This past weekend, I worked a home show (I'm a volunteer for American Cancer Society- more specific Relay For Life). I was with two other friends at the booth, so we all took turns walking around. The adoption agency that we are pretty sure we are going to go with was there, with their local case worker. We talked for a while, and I told her about the last three miscarriages (she knew we were going to keep trying since it was so 'cheep' for us to do fertility treatments until we could save the chunk of change we would need to adopt). I asked her what the economy had done to the agency (expecting that there would be even longer wait times). I was surprised to find out that they have more birthmothers wanting to give their child up for adoption, but less people wanting to adopt. Well, maybe not less waning, but less are able to take on the financial burden of an adoption.
She said the average wait time right now is 4-6 months. Four. to. Six. Months.
Granted the fees haven't changed, (around $18k), but holy cow! Four to six months!
It doesn't help that the federal tax credit is $12,170.00, and the military will reimburse us up to $2000.00, so in theory our $18,000 adoption suddenly begins to look like a $4,000 dollar adoption..... that will likely take four to six months.
I have a bad case of 'I wanna'....
I 'wanna' go against our initial decision to pay off the truck first
I 'wanna' start the process now
I 'wanna' let my heart make the decision, instead of my brain
I 'wanna' hold our child, sooner rather then later
On a a more positive note- I just got off the phone with our bank to transfer $2000.00 to the truck. Part of it was money we found in our budget, part of it was tax return. But it was a big step to getting that sucker paid off... once this month's payment hits we will be in the $12,xxx.00 (I'm not sure what the exact amount will be, but we will have broken the $12k mark!). Yea for coupon-ing
I'm adopted, he's in the Air Force, and all we really want is family. After 8 miscarriages, and one failed adoption, this blog is a journal through infertility, adoption, and now parenthood, now that Isaac has filled our baby carriage, and it's about to be filled again with a surprise, successful (so far) pregnancy! It's sometimes blunt, sometimes improper, but always real. This is our story.
I'm glad you go to talk to her a bit more about the process and the average wait time. And how good for you that you're making great strides financially!
ReplyDeleteThanks also for giving your time to volunteer for such a great cause.
Wow! Four to six months is...quick! I'll be praying for you--for patience, for sound financial decisions, for peace and guidance through this time of decisions. God bless!
ReplyDeleteWow, I would have a hard time not jumping on that right now!
ReplyDeleteOh Wow. It's probably a good thing I just happened upon your blog (from A Baby, Maybe) and have no clue about what adoption agency you're going through or I might be signing up. :) Good luck with patience, I know it can be excruciatingly hard.
ReplyDeleteI too am married to someone in the military. My husband is active duty in the Army. We have been through two deployments and are stationed in GA right now. I am also infertile. I have had one BFP that resulted in an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured and destroyed my fallopian tube. Since the removal of my tube, we have been seeing an RE and have been told that we only have a 1-3% chance of getting pregnant on our own. IUI's and IVF are our choices for a biological child. We have done one IUI which was negative and now I am working on losing weight since I am not PCOS but I have all of the symptoms that go along with it. I am down 25 pounds right now with about 75 more to go to get to my weight.
ReplyDeleteFor the past year or so, I really feel that God has been placing certain people in my life. These people are all parents of adopted or foster care adoption children.
We have started to look into adoption agencies as we feel that God is leading us to adopt before we try any further fertility treatments.
I was just wondering what adoption agency you all are leaning towards (specifically the one with the 4-6 month waiting period) and what other agencies you have looked at?
I completely understand about the huge chunk of money that adoption costs as I am married to a SGT and I am a teacher. Neither of which pays what they deserve that is for sure. :)
If you could help me out, I would really appreciate it.
My e-mail is: susan.marie.miller@gmail.com
Thank you so much,
Susan
Wow! That's amazing news! I had no idea the wait could be so short.
ReplyDeleteWow, 4-6 months?! That is INCREDIBLE. I thought the wait was so much longer. I can understand how much of a temptation that would be ...
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