tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post4421187639883467732..comments2024-02-29T21:41:08.147-08:00Comments on Got Love, Been Married, now where the hell's the baby carriage: RelationshipsJennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05749642916899596407noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-88487992825543722972012-07-10T13:14:56.178-07:002012-07-10T13:14:56.178-07:00Thank you for this post. I love hearing your expe...Thank you for this post. I love hearing your experience and knowing that we're not alone in the pitfalls of the adoption process. You have such a unique perspective being adopted yourself. I think you more than anyone are understanding of how important open communication of some type is. Good for you for keeping the relationship going on your end.manymanymoonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17953231355870217701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-2926814707547979312012-06-27T12:11:04.780-07:002012-06-27T12:11:04.780-07:00So so true!!!
With both sets of birth parents for ...So so true!!!<br />With both sets of birth parents for our kiddos, neither of them have requested letters and/ or pictures since the required ones by our agency. It was tough, and I still send holiday cards and Mother's day cards- to the agency they the bp's have to request the pictures, cards, letters etc.. You can only do so much! And who knows down the road when they are in a better place they may want more.happymomof4https://www.blogger.com/profile/13774686365582800301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-54406333429278825622012-06-27T11:20:32.170-07:002012-06-27T11:20:32.170-07:00I have no experience with adoption, and I had no i...I have no experience with adoption, and I had no idea that something like this would ever occur. I think I would keep sending the letters as well. Prayers for you as you move forward.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13876304376958575270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-28501809299490432142012-06-27T07:22:21.519-07:002012-06-27T07:22:21.519-07:00I don't know if Cadet's BM has any interes...I don't know if Cadet's BM has any interest in the letters/updates that I send her. She stopped replying to my e-mails months ago. Technically, when he turns one, all I have to do is send one update a year. I know I'll write more than that, as I never want Cadet to feel that I didn't try to reach out. It's so hard to know what the right thing to do is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-41675574225806277042012-06-27T06:33:00.242-07:002012-06-27T06:33:00.242-07:00Although we don't have the background of being...Although we don't have the background of being adopted ourselves, our daughter's birthmom stopped receiving our letters too. It broke my heart. I pray for her on a daily basis that she finds peace and will reconnect. Strangely, I feel like I need to know her as much as I want Colbie (our daughter) to know her. <br /><br />I still write all of the letters, but keep them in an envelope at home instead of sending them to the agency. That way if C's birthmom ever reconnects, I will have them all waiting for her. And if she doesn't, I will have them for Colbie to read when she is older.Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00970558737175846108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-30976841607480803802012-06-27T06:23:54.266-07:002012-06-27T06:23:54.266-07:00I like the idea that you plan to keep sending lett...I like the idea that you plan to keep sending letters and updates so at least he knows that it wasn't your intention to leave his birth mother out of his life. I'm sorry you didn't get the answer you were hoping for from the agency, but you never know if and when the birth mother will come around and want to know more about what's going on in your lives.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875307109685150842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-69743367492187963322012-06-27T05:13:37.935-07:002012-06-27T05:13:37.935-07:00I don't think I would worry about what your so...I don't think I would worry about what your son will think some day. I would continue to send updates once a year on his birthday. Eventually, when your son grows up and asks about it... tell him his parents loved him so much that it was difficult for them to maintain a relationship and they loved him enough to let him go to a wonderful family. <br /><br />I'm a birth mother, and gave my son up for adoption in 1992. We are a closed adoption state, so when I tried a few times over the years to get updates, I was turned down and told I was not allowed to have those. When my son turned 18, he contacted the agency and requested that they find me. Now, two years later he and I have a wonderful relationship. <br /><br />http://sincerelyjenni.comSincerely Iowahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06670680788364099572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8864154272358329303.post-76779744549803294782012-06-26T20:41:35.329-07:002012-06-26T20:41:35.329-07:00Love you girl.Love you girl.jenicinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361606793108116475noreply@blogger.com